As humans we want to feel understood. We have a need to relate to people. We don’t want to feel like we are the first to feel something; we want to know that someone else has felt or is currently feeling the same way. We don’t want to be alone.
The other day I was looking at Instagram and a picture came up of a woman I follow. I follow her because she posts about body positivity. She does fitness and also shows that womens’ bodies are not flawless like magazines depict, or people on social media who use filters and photoshop to appear perfect. The picture that came up had “YOU DON’T NEED TO BE PERFECT” as the caption.
Not only did the caption catch my eye, but so did the picture above it. The picture was actually two pictures. It was a picture of the woman’s legs in a bikini when she was posed one way with one type of lighting and posed another way in another type of lighting. A 5 second change but the pictures looked much different. In one picture her legs were smooth and in the other picture you could see some stretch marks and cellulite. She is a personal trainer and she was explaining how different lighting and poses can affect the way you look and that you don’t need to be perfect.
I really needed to see that message and for some reason I felt the need to share it to three women in my life. I didn’t know if these women ever judged their body or felt less than perfect, I just knew I felt the need to share it with them. So I did.
The responses I got from all three women were very similar and along the lines of “wow, I love that!” I was happy to know that I wasn’t the only one who enjoyed the message and to know that people I look up to in my life maybe had insecurities in their body sometimes too. It felt good to know they could relate and if I ever wanted to talk to any of them about a thought I had about my body I know I could.
Just knowing other women felt this way made me feel normal. There are lots of things in life that can happen or you can think or you can do and you wonder if it’s normal. You want to know you aren’t alone with whatever it is.
So if you feel alone in something, share how you are feeling. If you like to knit, tell someone and maybe you will find a new knitting buddy. If you like to go on walks in the rain, share that and I guarantee there is someone else who loves walks in the rain. Whatever it is, you are not alone.
There is a community out there that likes the same things that you do. They may not be in the same town as you, but finding people online can be a great tool too.
We humans just want to feel connected and to know we aren’t alone.
You are not alone, I promise!
Until next time,