Most people have probably heard the tale of Cinderella and how the prince met the perfect girl at the ball and she left behind a glass slipper. He went on a search for her and the only way he knew he would find her was if the shoe fit.
Have you ever been in a situation where you desperately wanted something to work out but maybe it just wasn’t quite a fit? Maybe you are like me and despite it being uncomfortable you tried to make that shoe fit.
Recently I encountered a situation that I wanted to work out (it doesn’t matter what it was because this example could work for so many situations in life) but at the same time I knew in my gut this was not the right thing. I wanted something enough to start to convince myself that my gut was wrong and that this situation was right for me. Maybe if I just pushed a little harder the shoe would fit!!!
Just like the step sisters in Cinderella who found out they could not make their foot fit in the glass slipper, I began to realize that I was just trying to make a shoe fit that never would.
Sometimes in life it can be hard to admit “defeat” when something doesn’t go the way you want it to. I really don’t see it as defeat as much as a learning process. Why did you so desperately want this situation to turn out that way? Were you truly ready for that to be your reality? Maybe you needed to experience it this way to learn and to grow as a person.
Anytime we are ready for something in our life it will not feel like it is a forced situation or that it is too hard. I don’t mean that there won’t be anything that comes into your life that challenges you the way it is supposed to, but it shouldn’t feel like it is the end of the world.
I have learned that a lot of times if you are desperately wanting something in your life and it isn’t happening for you there are a few reasons for this. One, you are not ready for what you want. Two, you are not working for what you want and just hoping it will come to you. Three, you are being too picky about what you want and you need to be more open to more variations of what you want. Four, what you think you want is not at all what you actually want and you will learn sometime that you were looking for the wrong thing (aka trying to make the wrong shoe fit).
One thing that is so important is to stay true to who you are and to not try to conform to anyone or anything. Do what you feel is best for you and your life. Please, please, please do not change because someone asked you to be different than who you are, or to get a certain job that doesn’t really align with who you are, or to not “embarrass” your family.
You are you for a reason and I promise you that the shoe that fits you is absolutely gorgeous.
Keep being true to who you are and what you believe in.
There is no other person who is the exact same as you and that is the most magical thing I have ever heard.
To wearing the shoe that fits!
Until next time,