Working with a child makes me understand that the grown people of the world, myself included, forget how fun life can be. Why are we walking around being so serious? Isn’t life supposed to be fun?
There are always two ways to look at a situation. There is the viewpoint of “Why is this happening to me?” and that of “What is this teaching me?”
A lot of people look at a situation as though something is happening to them. It is easy to get caught in this trap. You spill coffee down the front of your white shirt and the universe is out to get you. You hit all the red lights on the way to work and that is the reason you are late and it makes you angry.
If you flip your view to “What is this teaching me?” you will have a whole different experience. You spill coffee down your white shirt. You laugh about it and think maybe you should hit some other areas of your shirt to make it tie dye. A plain white shirt was boring anyway. You hit all the red lights on the way to work. You arrive late, but you arrive alive. Maybe the red lights were saving you from getting into a car accident and you are so grateful to have a car, a job, and to be alive.
It can be easy to fall into the habit of thinking things are happening to you. It takes work to look for the good in situations, but once you start to see the good in things life gets a whole lot better. You laugh at things that used to upset you. Life feels lighter and more joyful.
I still can get upset about a situation, but I catch myself and force myself to look at what is happening in a new way. What do I need to be learning in this moment? Do I need to slow down? Have I been on autopilot and need to check in with what I am doing and if this is really what I want? Is the activity I’m doing actually making me happy? Is this trip getting canceled because something traumatic would’ve happened on it?
I believe that there is a reason things happen. I believe there is always something to be learned about how a situation plays out. I think it is important to learn how to react to things in a calm and thought out manner rather than being quick to react and getting angry.
Looking at life through a new lens takes time and patience, but it is well worth it. Living life in a thought-provoking way keeps you engaged with your life.
Don’t fall asleep for your life and fall victim to the blame game. Wake up. Take charge of your life. Learn from situations you go through. Grow through what you go through.
You have the power to react to situations the way you want. You have the power to learn. You have the power to see the good in situations. You have the power to make your life beautiful.
We can do it, my friend.
Until next time,