Anyone else feeling like their life is constantly changing and keeping you on your toes? I know I can’t be the only one. I understand that life is an ever changing thing and you should expect the unexpected, but dang. Recently I feel like I have been getting whiplash from how frequently drastic changes are happening in my life. I am wondering if I am living out the theme song from The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air “Now, this is a story all about how my life got flipped-turned upside down.”
I know a few things that are certain. Life is constantly changing and that change is necessary for life to be happening, but that doesn’t mean it makes going through changes easy. It is normal to feel comfortable in a routine and to know how your week should go. It is normal to want normalcy in your everyday life. It is also normal to want to switch up your routine every so often. Change is a good way to make sure you are continuing to grow as a person. Just as the seasons change, a person should change over time.
When we are forced into changes we were completely unprepared for it can shock our system just as jumping into a freezing cold lake would. Depending on your personality you may thrive off of constant unknowns, or you may be someone who really tries to avoid them because it causes a lot of anxiety for you. I definitely used to be a person that couldn’t handle any change to be happening in my life. I am talking no changes; I really ate a bologna (no, I haven’t always been plant-based) sandwich for lunch every single day in second grade. I needed the constant stability of routine.
Today, I am a person who thrives from a morning routine and plan for the day but that doesn’t mean that I can’t cope with a new normal or a sudden change of plans. I have learned techniques to help me when times are uncertain and I feel like I have lost control of my life. I am okay with not always knowing what is going to be happening in my life, but sometimes I prefer the security of a planned routine.
These past few weeks my plans and routines have quite frankly gone out the window. My early bedtimes were turning into late nights staying awake as long as I could in order to fall asleep quickly to avoid thoughts about the virus. This turned into me not waking up as early, which then led to me not following my normal morning routine. I was doing these things to “cope” with my other plans changing, but really it was making the changes that were happening around me harder to deal with. A family trip to Florida was cancelled. My work schedule was shortened, stopped, then lengthened with a new schedule, then stopped and turned to a new job from home. My body was in shock from all the changes being thrown at it.
I am settling into a new normal routine, which I am well aware can change at any moment. I know these months ahead of us are uncertain. I know that I can’t know how long this will go on and who all it will directly affect, but I do know that I can control the way I react to what is going on around me and that feeling anxious about the unknowns is not good for my body.
I am now practicing healthy habits that keep my mind clear and my body feeling its best. I encourage you to implement habits in your life that make you feel your best, and if you want you can try some of mine!
My favorite things to calm my mind and make me feel my best are:
- Writing in a journal
- Listening to calming music (I really like Bon Iver, Ben Howard, and Caamp)
- Moving my body (walking, running, lifting weights)
- Talking to family and friends
- Avoiding the news
- Getting in the kitchen and baking or cooking
- Organizing cupboards
- Looking at inspirational quotes (like the ones I sprinkled throughout this post)
I know that everyone has a different way of handling stressful situations, but I thought I would share mine in case they are helpful to anyone!
I hope you are staying sane and safe during this sometimes stressful and uncertain period of time. Know that you are not alone and it is perfectly normal to feel like you have your life together one day and feel like you are falling apart the next.
Honor your body and its needs. We will get through this.
Until next time,